Obviously Gay Traits

Ever since Scott came out to me last summer, we began watching a variety of movies having to do with "gay" issues. I intend to write a blog post to review many of the movies we have watched...but not today.

Anyway, one of the movies we watched was "The Broken Heart's Club". One of the characters says something about OGTs, and when someone questions him about it, he explains that he means "obviously gay traits".

Scott and I met D. in November at our first MoHo party. Then a couple of weeks later we invited him to join us for Family Night to see the lights at Temple Square. Then he began hanging around at our house more and more, and the more he did, the more he learned about Scott. It seemed that every time he came, something about Scott would come up, and he would gasp and say, "...and you didn't know you were gay?" or "You really had no idea that he is gay? This makes it so obvious!"

One day D. decided that this had happened so many times that he needed to start making a list. I found an old notebook in our filing cabinet from my own school days (one that is filled with bright pink lined paper) and he began making a list of everything that he could remember. It is now referred to as the "pink notebook". When he is over and something comes up, he will gasp and say, "I need my pink notebook!"


Anyway, here is our list so far:

• Scott enjoys dipping chocolates to give to the neighbors at Christmas. He tried learning how from the internet first, then after a couple of years of his chocolates not meeting up to his expectations, he took a class at Gygi's (and was the only guy there, he says.)

• A few years ago he began making me a new piece of jewelry for our anniversary (and other events) every year. Nothing says "I love you" like a home-made gift. And high quality, too! I am always proud when someone compliments one of them and I respond, "Thanks, my husband made it for me!"

• Also a few years ago, Scott and his sister convinced me that I should start coloring my graying hair. I have never been to a salon to have it done, because Scott colors it for me every time.

• Scott subscribes to Men's Vogue, GQ, and other magazines full of well dressed (or partially dressed) men.

• When Scott was in college, he intended to go into graphic design, so he started as an art major. For one of his clay art projects, he created a well-built male bust. (This was only a year or two into our marriage.)

• Also a year or two into our marriage, he decided to have his step-mom perm his hair. Unfortunately, his hair didn't take to it very well, and before long it was no longer curly, so he hasn't tried it since. However, he has had his sister (and me sometimes) put blond highlights in his hair, and one time he bleached it entirely, turning it a yellowish-orange color. He went to church once with it that color, and got lots of interesting reactions. (I personally was very embarrassed to be with him, sadly.) At work, his boss said, "You know, in San Francisco, that would mean something." He came home from work and told me and we laughed about it. Later in the week I helped him dye it back to brown.

• One year his step mom asked him to make a cake for a niece and nephew's birthdays. He created an awesome "Finding Nemo" cake with rolled fondant icing. He also made a beautiful heart-shaped cake for me for Valentine's Day, that same year, I think.

• Scott crocheted an afghan on his mission on P-days while his mission companions played basketball and such. 8 or 9 years ago, he was the varsity scout coach in our ward and decided to teach the boys to crochet so that they could make something for their moms for Mother's day.
  

So, yeah, why do you think we have both been so oblivious for so long?

Feel free to comment and add to the list, if you know Scott well at all and have observed any OGTs. :)

By the way, so as not to offend anyone, this post is all in good fun, and I am sorry if any of you feel like I am unfairly "stereotyping" Scott or anyone else.