tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post4679926186322102966..comments2023-10-19T05:34:26.911-06:00Comments on Serendipity: Letter from a motherSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-88624484523658889272010-05-14T14:26:42.212-06:002010-05-14T14:26:42.212-06:00Kari, sounds like a good plan. Easier said than do...Kari, sounds like a good plan. Easier said than done sometimes if we have strong feelings about it, but I think we can heed the spirit for help with what to say and do, and to show Christlike love for all of god's children.<br /><br />Thanks for your question. Even if a lot of gays feel like there is no middle ground, there still is. And it begins with people like you and questions like yours.<br /><br />Good luck!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-64741349414661019942010-05-14T14:12:46.948-06:002010-05-14T14:12:46.948-06:00Sarah,
Thank you. You seem like a wonderful pers...Sarah,<br /><br />Thank you. You seem like a wonderful person and I admire you more than I can express.<br /><br />I do believe that God is the ultimate judge and that He will take our specific situation into account. I guess maybe it's a matter of loving those members of our family who may face this situation and helping them any way we can.Karinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-79538376989861401182010-05-14T14:02:05.982-06:002010-05-14T14:02:05.982-06:00Kari,
I understand what you are trying to say. It...Kari,<br /><br />I understand what you are trying to say. It actually reminds me a lot of an article in the ensign back in September. This is something that Scott and I both fretted about for many months after he came out and our circle of friendship began to include many gay people in many different circumstances. We prayed to reconcile our feelings on this subject with the teachings of the church. The result we saw from those prayers was an amazing ability to love all of our friends without any judgement at all. There was no "love the sinner but hate the sin" for us. It didn't matter if our friends were married with children, celebate, or in a gay relationship. We were at peace--a peace we felt came from God, in loving and rejoicing in our friends' committed gay relationships.<br /><br />Might I recommend a movie that might help you understand our point of view? It is called "Prayers for Bobby." <br /><br />I firmly believe that even if gay sex is a sin, that God takes each of our specific situations into account, as well things how we live our lives in other ways, and that the atonement will take care of the "sin". Regardless, it is not for me to judge. So I love these friends, completely without judgement.<br /><br />Does that make sense?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-80862967728233674012010-05-14T13:24:48.006-06:002010-05-14T13:24:48.006-06:00Scott,
I'm don't quite agree with your ch...Scott,<br /><br />I'm don't quite agree with your characterization of my statement. I'm not saying people attracted to members of their own sex are less worthy. But, I do believe God has set boundaries for what behaviors are OK and what behaviors are not, and I believe those boundaries apply to all. In other words, sin is sin, no matter who you are or what your desires might be, right?<br /><br />Honestly, I think it comes down to being willing to separate the person from the behavior. I have a family member who lives a homosexual lifestyle. I love her and always have. But, I still believe her behavior is wrong. That does not mean that I think any less of her or that I think God thinks any less of her.Karinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-69673892487190040492010-05-14T13:02:06.152-06:002010-05-14T13:02:06.152-06:00@Kari,
No, not really...
Of course, most gay peo...@Kari,<br /><br />No, not really...<br /><br />Of course, most gay people couldn't care less what you think about the morality of their decisions as long as you don't try to enact laws based on those opinions.<br /><br />But that aside, let's look at what you're saying:<br /><br />"I love you and accept you as a brother/sister, but you can't be in love. You can't find romance or share your life with someone or raise a family. And if you <i>do</i> any of those things you're a sinner. Wicked. Evil."<br /><br />You're saying "you don't get the same opportunities as me", which inherently implies "you're not as good as me, or as worthy".<br /><br />I don't believe God sees His gay children as less worthy, so I can't believe that homosexual behavior is any less moral in His eyes than heterosexual behavior. Those who do <i>are</i> displaying some prejudice, no matter how mild and disguised with love and compassion it might be.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15332275934258698026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-27608027541196849882010-05-14T12:25:56.562-06:002010-05-14T12:25:56.562-06:00I totally agree - the hate is wrong.
I wonder tho...I totally agree - the hate is wrong.<br /><br />I wonder though, is there a happy medium? Sometimes I think opinions like the authors create kind of an either/or decision: either you hate gays and antagonize them or you have to accept homosexuality as moral. Is there a middle ground where we love gay people and accept them as our brothers and sisters but still believe that homosexual behavior is wrong?Karinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-15426361796127737582010-05-14T11:48:34.651-06:002010-05-14T11:48:34.651-06:00This resonates with me. Thanks for sharing it!This resonates with me. Thanks for sharing it!Kengo Biddleshttp://str8ontilmorning.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-38267924500874894122010-05-14T00:52:01.469-06:002010-05-14T00:52:01.469-06:00@lanabanana: Thats awesome that she was so involve...@lanabanana: Thats awesome that she was so involved (as you were) and that things have changed so much since then.<br /><br />Good for this Mother for speaking out. I agree with her wholeheartedly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-85867591822087754122010-05-13T20:40:02.971-06:002010-05-13T20:40:02.971-06:00That's awesome, Alanna. I noticed how old it w...That's awesome, Alanna. I noticed how old it was. It might not be needed so much in Vermont any more, but here in ultra conservative utah, more of us need to continue to stand up and write bold letters like this one.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-11411191701638638162010-05-13T20:20:53.416-06:002010-05-13T20:20:53.416-06:00Sarah, the writer of this letter is a mom in my lo...Sarah, the writer of this letter is a mom in my local PFLAG group. It's been 10 yrs since she wrote that and Vermont is a completely different place today than it was then. It's kind of amazing to see the evolution. Actually, our local PFLAG group rarely meets because there just isn't much need of it anymore. <br /><br />Alannalanabananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09034195249065989206noreply@blogger.com