tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post4642473786354543867..comments2023-10-19T05:34:26.911-06:00Comments on Serendipity: When I cry...Sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-30531482323213587202010-05-13T17:54:43.157-06:002010-05-13T17:54:43.157-06:00Thanks, Mille. It's fun to hear from people th...Thanks, Mille. It's fun to hear from people that read my blog that I don't know about. :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-24198171465168961312010-05-13T00:38:03.394-06:002010-05-13T00:38:03.394-06:00Thank you for introducing me to this song. After r...Thank you for introducing me to this song. After reading your post, I immediately downloaded it, and listened to it over and over again. I find music to be such an important part of my life and have often wished for that I could have a soundtrack for my life. This song would definately be one that would be played often. A couple of songs I have been recently listening to that you might like are Blue Sky by Emily West, Miss Halfway by Anya Marina, and All Love, Giving Up and Keep Breathing by Ingrid Michaelson. Anyway, I haven't ever met you, just have a mutual friend whose life has been postively influenced by you guys and your parties, but, through your blog and your husbands blog, I feel like I know you, and I definately wish you guys all the best. You are in my prayers.Millenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-41647643651240606892010-05-07T23:07:26.343-06:002010-05-07T23:07:26.343-06:00Thanks, Gail. Your comment made me cry just a bit,...Thanks, Gail. Your comment made me cry just a bit, but I really do appreciate your perspective and how you are handling everything. Thanks for helping me realize that I don't have to pretend that our marriage never happened if we get divorced. It has been a very important part of my life and always will be, and I don't have to throw all that away to move on and accept change. I have to keep reminding myself that Scott said we could take the process slowly, and so I will have hours and days and weeks and most likely months to gradually come to terms with everything.<br /><br />By the way, I completely understand your pain as expressed in comments on Scott's blog. Isn't it sad that by supporting the other parent of our children, we lose family and church connections. Like I said, it is so hard to feel like I am losing everything at once.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08765524620705643823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-35732579136863364412010-05-06T09:54:41.472-06:002010-05-06T09:54:41.472-06:00Sarah,
I was going to keep my nose out of this po...Sarah,<br /><br />I was going to keep my nose out of this post because I think that what I say usually is intrusive and likely just causes pain. But as usual I am sort on restraint. <br /><br />I know how painful this is. I also think I know that Scott truly loves you and you will have him no less whether he is in the same room, house, or bed. He will always love you just as much as he does now and always be committed to you as much as he is now. In fact in some ways he will be freed and his love will be able to grow in ways it has not been able to. <br /><br />I think you should open your mind to more possible ways of doing things than the norm. The things in your home that are about you and Scott do not necessarily need to be hidden. He will always be a very important part of your life and your children’s lives. The way you display it may change, but it does not need to go away. I have things in my home that have Stacey and my marriage date. It will always be an important day in mine and my children’s lives. I ware my wedding rings around my neck on a change. It is still important to me but not for the same reason as when I was married. Some people have told me that no woman will ever put up with any of this. That is true for some women, but not for all. It is important for me for any woman that I choose to get involved with to understand the importance my ex has in my life and my children’s lives. That importance has changed and will continue to change, but I believe it will never leave. It will be different than the importance of another spouse in my life and that new spouse will come first, but it would be a lie to say that Stacey has no importance.<br /><br />I do not think it is unreasonable for you to keep your sealing in place. I do not agree that current LDS doctrine would support that Scott will be straight in the next life. I think that the brethren are increasingly silent on details concerning the theology of homosexuality. My personal opinion is this is because current LDS theology of homosexuality is not only not defensible but completely contradictory. I also do not believe that even if you look to the proclamation as gospel that gives you any clue about gay or straightness in the here after. I am not sure how anyone can justify this idea with what Alma has to say that the same spirit that inhabits your body at the time of death will in habit you at the time of the resurrection. Remember God knows you and Scott and loves you both. What every you do with your selling will not change Gods ability to do what is best for you both. All this being said I am not sure I ever want to cancel the sealing with my wife. I think there is a reason to keep this connection.<br /> <br />Whether Scott is physically in your house or not will not effect if you are alone. There are plenty of people that are very alone that stay married their whole lives. In fact in some ways you may end up being more alone if he stays in the same house. I think in spirit Scott will not leave you. He will stay with you and support you.<br /><br />As I reread this it sounds incredibly harsh. I am sorry. My prayers are with you and Scott. Be gentle with yourself. God loves you, Scott loves you, your family and your children love you, so many of us that only really know you through the blog love you to. You have not only a morning process to go through, but a complete rearrangement of your self image. Everything you planned for, hoped for, and ever imagined about your life is being turned on it’s head. If you are anything like me in my marriage you have never let yourself truly consider any of this for your life. God wants happiness for you. God has a plan for you life that is so much greater then you even can imagine at this point. He has a way for you and your family to find happiness.gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11812337885775588481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-32263165815512566502010-05-06T00:01:07.798-06:002010-05-06T00:01:07.798-06:00((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
I wish there was more I c...((((((((((HUGS))))))))))<br />I wish there was more I could do or say. Just know that you are supported and loved by many!Sophrosynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14265069701656051194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6972661907029038524.post-34073818937730030072010-05-05T22:15:11.179-06:002010-05-05T22:15:11.179-06:00Don't be ashamed to cry. It's not weaknes...Don't be ashamed to cry. It's not weakness you show, it's courage. Courage in yourself as you show others you trust them to witness when you are feeling vulnerable.<br /><br />And even though you feel vulnerable, crying is the process of creating strength. Never be ashamed to cry.TGDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787370282987477869noreply@blogger.com